Tips for Mommy Bloggers

As any parent already knows, the immense responsibility of being a Mother or Father is matched with an equally immense time commitment. While we all want to be there for our children 100% of the time, it has become abundantly lear to me that clearing some time for myself is actually quite necessary. Not only does it prevent me from going crazy, but it also allows me to stay alert and focused when taking care of my kids, and overall, I just feel less burnt out and can more thoroughly enjoy the time I’m spending with the little ones.

Of course, creating time for yourself is easier said than done. Ideally, I would like to exercise as much as possible to stay healthy, but after being on my feet all day running errands and chasing the kids, sometimes I’m simply too exhausted. As a relatively new Mommy Blogger, I have found this type of activity to be highly beneficial for multiple reasons. The two main advantages to this activity is it can actually be quite relaxing, and on top of that, it’s a great way to communicate with other parents and learn some very useful tips and tricks. Lots of Mother’s have now started their own blogs, and I would like to pass along a couple tips that I think could help make the whole activity a lot easier, and subsequently, way more fun!

  1. Don’t force your content. When you first start writing, it’s hard to think of it in a casual manner. Of course, you want your content to be presentable, but forcing yourself to think of ideas rather than having them form naturally can reduce the quality of information. Take your time with your blog, building it with some of the most important information you have come across and other things that you feel strongly about. It will also be more fun to do when you actually have the time, as opposed to “squeezing it in” to your day.
  2. It’s not a competition. The best way to get your ideas out there is to share them with other bloggers, and in return, you may learn some great things yourself!
  3. If you have a history of arthritis or other joint problems, issues from typing can add up if you spend a lot of time on the computer. I’m only on mine for a little bit of each day, but before I had children I was on the computer all day for work constantly typing. I was surprised when I began having issues with my wrists when I was blogging, but apparently, all those years of rapid typing really caught up to me. Turns out I have carpal tunnel syndrome, which is very common and treatable, but also very painful if left untreated. I now wear carpal tunnel braces that really help me go about my day, and they’re actually pretty affordable and easy to find. For those with arthritis in the hands, these braces won’t really work that well, but I know another mommy blogger who wear arthritis gloves that she swears by.
  4. This is something that not every blogger will agree with, but I would suggest keeping photos and names of your children off your blog. While your audience will likely be pretty small, especially at first, you never know who will land on your site. For this reason, I tend to keep personal information to a minimum on the site, or at least in an anonymous manner. Plus, I’m sure it will save the kids some embarrassment when they grow up!

That’s about it for now! These tips aren’t anything ground-breaking, but they are things I constantly work on and have found seems to really make things a lot smoother. That said, it’s your blog, so you can do whatever you want with it! The main thing is to have some fun and learn a few things that will help you be the best parent you can be! Good luck!

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Prevent Colic – Effective Baby Burping Techniques

Have you ever tried having a colicky pain, that nasty intermittent abdominal pain? It’s painful right? Imagine a small, fragile baby experiencing infantile colic, can you bear looking at your baby experiencing such? Of course not. Little ones have not developed their burping abilities yet, this is the reason why they are very prone to colic, but over time, as they grow, they will be able to develop this.  So, for now, as parents, whether full time or working, you have to help your babies burp. If you are a loving and caring mom or dad, better read on.

4 Effective Burping Techniques

First and foremost, before you start burping your babies make sure you have placed a burp cloth over the part where your baby will rest his or her face. This is not only to protect you from possible “wet burp” or burp accompanied with spit or vomit, but more importantly, this will protect your baby from possible dirt or skin irritants on your clothing. The best burp cloths are so baby friendly and safely enough to protect your babies from harmful agents.

  1. Shoulder Technique

The shoulder technique is the most commonly done method to burp babies. Put the burp cloth over your shoulder, and then hold your baby in an upright position, while your other hand is supporting your baby’s bottom. Make sure that there is a gentle pressure on the baby’s abdomen. Mildly rub or pat the infant’s back with your free hand until he burps.

  1. Belly Technique

If the you or the baby is uncomfortable with the shoulder technique you can try the belly technique. You can do this by placing your baby on his stomach over your lap or a firm pillow. Do not forget to place the burp cloth before you position your baby. The idea here is to apply a gentle pressure to the baby’s stomach with the help of a pillow or your lap, while he is in a prone position. Make sure his head is well supported and nothing is impeding his breathing. Gently tap his back until he is able to burp.

  1. Lap Technique

Some babies are not comfortable when pressure applied onto their bellies or when they are in a prone position. If this is the case, you can burp your baby using the lap technique. Have your baby sit on your lap, slightly leaning forward. Use your dominant have to support his chin and hands. Use your free hand to gently tap or rub his back upward. This motion will allow the air to be expelled.

  1. Tick Tock Technique

Tick tock technique is derived from the movement of the clock. This technique entails a swaying motion. Put your hands under the baby’s armpits while your thumb and forefinger supports the baby’s head. Then, gently sway or rock him from side to side until he is able to burp.

Burping is very essential for caregivers to do. Accumulated air in the baby’s stomach is very irritating and most often, very painful for them. Some babies burp immediately, some babies take 10-20 minutes before they are able to expel air from their bellies. Be patient. The most important thing is that you have to help your little one burp to prevent colic and keep a safe happy baby.

Watch this video on How to Burp a Baby

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How To Determine if its Time Get Home Care for Your Mother

Much as we want out parents to stay with us forever, there are times when we will need home care to maintain happiness at home. With assisted care, you can be sure that your mother or father will be taken care of trained professionals. They know what they are doing and they are objective with the way the administer care. If we take matters into our own hands, chances are, we can be emotional and instead of doing the right thing, we end up doing what feeds our emotions.

Signs that Your Parents Need Assisted Care

There are telltale signs that your parents are already in need of home care. As they grow older, you will notice changes in their behavior that will tell you that it’s time to seek assisted care. There is no reason to be emotional about it because you know that all you want is their welfare.

  1. Difficulty keeping track of time

    One of the first things that will happen when your parents are really getting old is when they can no longer keep track of time. Not only will they have difficulty keeping track of the sequence of time, they will also have a hard time keeping up with what happened.

  2. Sleeping for most of the day

    Their body clock will seem to reverse and they will end up sleeping for most of the day. They will also tend to be awake for most of the night. This will take a toll on the family because when everybody is asleep, you parent will be busy doing all sorts of things and making some noise.

  3. Poor diet or weight loss

    These will be a change in their sense of taste resulting in loss of appetite. Consequently, they will also lose weight because of poor eating habit. This is going to be a huge problem for you because they will soon experience weakness to the point that they will have a hard time carrying their own bodies.

  4. Loss of interest in hobbies and activities

    Due to despair, they will also begin to lose interest with things that they used to love like their hobbies. They will not know how to spend their time and will have trouble finding new things to do.

  5. Changes in mood or extreme mood swings

    Due to the above changes, they will also experience extreme mood swings and this is going to be really difficult to members of your family. One moment they will be angry, the next moment they will be sad.

  6. Difficulty getting up from a seated position

    Due to poor diet, they will begin to lose bone mass and experience back pains. This will result in an inability to get up from a seated position.

These signs when present are the sure signs that your parents are in need for assisted care. When you see these behavior, don’t hesitate to call for help before things really reach a point that you can no longer handle.

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Balancing Work and Kids

Balancing Work and Kids

I worked hard before I could find my work-life balance. As mothers, we have this great responsibility of making sure our kids grow up as they should. Sometimes, they are extremely demanding. Picture a situation where you have a breastfeeding baby and another sick toddler. For a working mom like me, work/life balance was elusive at the beginning even sounding like a myth.

But when I began making deliberate choices about which opportunities to pursue and which to decline, I began to be more meaningfully engaged. When I reflect on my progress, I realize that there are defining themes that keep coming up.

Travelling & relocating selectively

Whenever I was travelling, it was always stressful. Lingering questions like whether the kids were asleep, eaten, or even if sick keep flooding my mind. I ended up making so many phone calls that I concentrated less on my job than I should have.

I did the math eventually, and decided to cut back on my trips. I realized that some were not worth it at all. When my children eventually become adolescents, I do not plan to travel a single bit.

Collaborating with your spouse

If you have no emotional support from your partner, they may be contributing very little to your balancing efforts. We women love complimentary relationships, especially if you’re a working mother with kids to raise.  I realized that my spouse’s work and behavioral skills balanced out my own tendencies. If there is stress, it’s shared out between us.  Yes, I do count myself lucky!

Manage your communications

Undivided attention both at home and workplace is essential. You can imagine your boss calling and it’s your 4 year old who picks up…it’s happened. Worst of all kids can delete your text messages or even important emails. Deciding when and where to be accessible is still a challenge but I am getting better at saying no.

These days I am honest about how much I can multitask and how often I’m available to my team. I keep my inboxes under control too.  When I put my phone down, I don’t look at it again until morning, if it isn’t on fire it can wait. Here is some help I has achieving that, it wasn’t easy the temptation to look at your phone is great.

Create support networks

That aunt you rarely call could be your savior when you go out of town. Occasionally, you will need to vent out your frustrations. What better people to talk to than family. I once had a cousin come over to help babysit whenever she was on holiday.

My colleagues have also been valuable sounding boards. Were it not for their compassion, my career would be derailed.  Nevertheless, obtaining this balance has been a sobering reality with no clear cut formula. I still have my family and my work calling for attention and that isn’t going to change.

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My Kids Play Soccer So I Can Have an Hour of Peace

My Kids Play Soccer So I Can Have an Hour of Peace

Remember back when you first discovered you were pregnant how thrilled you were, you would soon have a little bundle of joy of your very own.  Then came the sleepless nights, teething and colic and whatever else that deprived you of sleep.  For that you were rewarded with the terrible twos.  Oh joy!  Ah…but then a few years later the real reward came…school.

Suddenly your little bundle of joy was 5 and off to kindergarten and you could pee all by yourself.  It’s the small things, I know.  Yes, you did miss them and hoped they liked school but the peace and quiet was precious.  That doesn’t make you a bad person or a bad mother, it makes you human.  Alas the school day would end and within three minutes of walking in the door chaos resumed.  Now once my kids went to school I went back to work so my quiet times alone were very, very short lived.

Going Back to Work

Make no mistake leaving my kids and going back to work was hard and for a long time I spent half my day working and the other half fretting over how they were doing, were they eating and were they driving the teacher absolutely nuts.  I know teachers, it happens to the best of them.

Evenings and Weekends

Ask any working mother and they will tell you evenings and weekends are certainly not the relaxing oasis they once were.  You are trying to prepare for the days and weeks ahead while your littles run around like they have eaten pixie sticks with a Red Bull chaser, honestly I need some of that!

Sports

Most parents will tell you they put their kids in extra curricular activities like soccer, swimming or whatever your preferred sport is so that their kids will learn valuable lessons like teamwork and good sportsmanship.  Yeah, I am not that parent.  Oh don’t get me wrong I want my kids to learn all that stuff and become well rounded adults.

An Hour of Peace

The truth is…my kids play soccer so I can have an hour of peace!  I can drop them off to practice and go sit in Starbucks sip my latte, make fun of the hipsters (never out loud) and just bask in the quiet…aaaah.  Yes I know there will come a day when they’re all grown up and gone and I will miss the hugs, kissing skinned knees better and the chaos that reigns today.

But right now it’s just me and my caramel macchiato extra foam.

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